If the answer to this is not an immediate “Yes!” then this might be affecting your job search.
Because all that we find secretly loathsome about ourselves tends to be projected onto others. Especially those who are evaluating our fit for a particular job.
- A lack of interview invites becomes indifference to us.
- An unsuccessful interview becomes rejection of us.
Think of what you don’t really like about yourself. There are only two types of self-loathing. That which you can’t change. And that which you can.
There are plenty of things I dislike about myself. Here are a few:
- I’m not 6 feet tall. At 5 feet 11 inches, I’m one of the shorter men in my family. BUT I can’t do anything about it, so I don’t dwell on it.
- My focus is not as good as I’d like. BUT I’m working every day on improving this, so I don’t dwell on it.
Because of this, my self-esteem stays intact. Most days. 😉
Failure at the job search is almost never a personal matter. Certainly never as personal as how we feel about these frustrations if we don’t love ourselves.